DH doesn't want me to get the nuchal translucency scan (12 week scan) as it is going to cost us $95 and we don't have the money at the moment.

(I know people are going to think how come you are having another baby, blah blah... well we are moving house so have to book people to clean and get rid of rubbish plus the cost of moving into a new house).

His reasoning is becuase, there is no history of down syndrome and I am young. I can't shake this niggly feeling in the back of my mind I am a bit worried! Plus I haven't heard my babies heart beat as when I went for my dating scan I was only 5+2 and they didn't look. So I want to make sure that my baby is ok, plus I do want to see it.

Is there anyone out there who didn't get this scan done...?
Or what do you think...?

Wasn't even offered to me with DD3, apparently it's not routine here and they only do it if there is a reason to.

My hospital also only do it if there is reason. If you want it then you go private. There was reason with DS3 due to my second having congenital defects so I had it and it cost me nothing.

lots of people don't get it. It all depends on what you would do with the information, some people don't have it as they would keep a baby with disabilities. Others want to have it so they have the option to terminate the pregnancy.

I would not feel comfortable not having the scan no matter what the cost was, $95 sounds cheap, mine was more like $200!! Can you explain to your DH that it's playing on your mind and quite important to you that you get it done?

My MIL bought me a cheapy one when I was pregnant with Willow. but it broke. We went to have a look today to see if we could find another one but everywhere was out or didn't sell them :(

I might ask the doctor.

Another thing.. I haven't gotten my letter from the hospital yet...? When does that usally happen... I was sure by 12 weeks I got it with DD... (I know I am not 12 weeks yet LOL).

Emily firstly, I don't judge you on the money thing, I know part of your story (ttc and sudden job loss) so I know you're not one of those mums IYKWIM!

Maybe do some sums and see if you can make a budget cut somewhere so that you can do it, then maybe put it to your DH that if you end up having a DS child the cost will be much more than $95 !

I know of ppl who haven't done it and things were fine. One friend didn't do it because she knew she wouldn't abort if there were a problem, but ask yourself if you would abort if your test came back positive for DS or another disorder. If the answer is yes, then do the scan. If the answer is no, then there would be no point in doing it anyway except give you a few months to mentally prepare for a DS child.

Good luck hun xoxo

We didn't have the nuchal scan, but my ob had just bought a new ultrasound machine and gave me a scan at every appointment so he could play with his machine... So I already had piece of mind!

We did with DS but decided not to with this baby. We wanted to limit babys exposure to ultra sound..(although went out the window with my placenta previa!) and not to mention didn't have the money lying around.

Thanks Rach!!! :)

In all honestly in my head we could afford it. It is DH birthday on the 1 March and I think he wanted that money to put towards a birthday present for himself (yes he is a bit selfish!! ).

I think I might have a look around I have been told by a few people that the hospital might do them free of charge (however as I am not in a high risk - I don't think they might for me) and then talk to DH again and then decide if we still want to do it. I am leaning towards no from the answers here.

I have had it done ech time and would always have it done. I am glad we did choose to have it done with my second pregnancy as there was a major problem that was going to be devastating in the end so t lest we had the information to act upon.

As other's hve said it is a lot of money but DS costs and wful lot more in the long run. I would tell your DH that he might have to wait for a present for a little while.